Sunday, February 3, 2019

Reflections from the Home Team, February 3, 2019


“As we approach our individual ‘spring trainings’, may we remember that the teammates in our lives (both human and divine) can help us find our way when dealing with the struggles and challenges each day can bring… while always remembering to keep God at our side along the way.”

Greetings from Cedar Falls,

As you all know, the weather has been brutal up this way the past couple of weeks, so I’ve needed to “distract” my thoughts by thinking of things much more positive… I’ve also experienced the loss of a friend and another acquaintance to cancer over the past couple of months, which has also been weighing on my mind.

Given those challenging thoughts, I have done my best to restore my mindset to “positive mode” by reminding myself of the importance of my “Home Team”, and the impact they have had on me when I need a lift, something I have so often talked about in my reflections to all of you.  My thoughts also wandered to the final moments of both that friend and acquaintance who were lovingly surrounded by family and friends as they took their final breath on this earth and passed on to the eternal homes that have been prepared for each of them by our loving Father. That thought helped remind me of the wonderful things that lay ahead for each of us, even after we deal with the pain and struggles this life can bring.

At this time of year, my mind tends to wander to “Spring Training” (imagine that) where pitchers and catchers will soon report. I can literally smell the freshly mown grass as a reminder of the spring that lies just ahead of us here in the Midwest! Every spring, baseball teams start training for the season to produce the best “team” results they possibly can. Even though they may already know each other and have a good grasp of the fundamentals needed to succeed, it boosts their performance and teamwork while also helping integrate new members onto the team. When discussing the subject of teamwork with my former players, “playing together as a team” was always one of their higher priorities.

Sharing thoughts while navigating my cancer journey has been a “from the heart” experience, allowing me to process and reflect on the many emotions and fears that have invaded my mind since this adventure began back in 2009. As you can surely tell from reading those thoughts, not all of them have been positive, but with the help of my Home Team, I have strived to make them productive.

Last week I heard a wonderful message from Pastor Brian King that really brought home the importance of “team” to me and gave me a special “lift” that was needed.  It was titled “There’s No “I” in Team”. If interested, you can view it at this link: https://vimeo.com/314075530

Pastor Brian shared that we learn in 1 Corinthians, 12: 4-7 that the body is made of many parts and every part matters. We cannot be the “body alone” as we are created to live and serve in community.  There is no greater example of this than what I have experienced from my Home Team on my cancer journey.

God really did design us to live close to Him so that by trusting in Him we can feel peaceful and complete. Sometimes, we tend to forget this as we deal with life’s challenges “on our own” instead of staying in touch with Him and others around us. Pastor Brian used an illustration of what can happen when we depend wholly on ourselves, rather than reaching out to others around us when facing challenges.

It is titled “The Barrel of Bricks”:
This man was in an accident (work accident, not car accident), so he filled out an insurance claim. The insurance company contacted him and asked for more information. This was his response:           

I am writing in response to your request for additional information for block number 3 of the accident reporting form. I put ‘poor planning’ as the cause of my accident. You said in your letter that I should explain more fully and I trust the following detail will be sufficient. 

I am an amateur radio operator and on the day of the accident, I was working alone on the top section of my new 80 foot tower.

When I had completed my work, I discovered that I had, over the course of several trips up the tower, brought up about 300 pounds of tools and spare hardware. Rather than carry the now un-needed tools and material down by hand, I decided to lower the items down in a small barrel by using a pulley, which was fortunately attached to the gin pole at the top of the tower. 

Securing the rope at ground level, I went to the top of the tower and loaded the tools and material into the barrel. Then I went back to the ground and untied the rope, holding it tightly to ensure a slow descent of the 300 pounds of tools. You will note in block number 11 of the accident reporting form that I weigh only 155 pounds. 

Due to my surprise of being jerked off the ground so suddenly, I lost my presence of mind and forgot to let go of the rope. Needless to say, I proceeded at a rather rapid rate of speed up the side of the tower. In the vicinity of the 40-foot level, I met the barrel coming down. This explains my fractured skull and broken collarbone. Slowed only slightly, I continued my rapid ascent, not stopping until the fingers of my right hand were two knuckles deep into the pulley.

Fortunately, by this time, I had regained my presence of mind and was able to hold onto the rope in spite of my pain. 

At approximately the same time, however, the barrel of tools hit the ground and the bottom fell out of the barrel. Devoid of the weight of the tools, the barrel now weighed approximately 20 pounds. I refer you again to my weight in block number 11. As you might imagine, I began a rapid descent down the side of the tower. In the vicinity of the 40-foot level, I met the barrel coming up. This accounts for the two fractured ankles, and the lacerations of my legs and lower body. The encounter with the barrel slowed me enough to lessen my injuries when I fell onto the pile of tools and, fortunately, only three vertebrae were cracked. I am sorry to report, however, that as I lay there on the tools, in pain, unable to stand and watching the empty barrel 80 feet above me, I again lost my presence of mind. I let go of the rope . . .

I think we have all had a “Barrel of Bricks” to deal with at some time or another in our lives… and if you are like me, often we try to handle things on our own. When those challenges come our way, be sure to reach out to others (both human and divine) for the strength, love and support needed to meet them. We cannot be the “body alone” as we are created to live and serve in community!

An inspiring piece written by Chuck Swindoll titled, Friendly People, Thoughtful People, lovingly describes the special people who have surrounded me in my life, making up my precious Home Team. It reads:

“If I have learned anything during my journey on Planet Earth, it is that people need one another.

The presence of other people is essential
caring people, helpful people, interesting people, friendly people, and thoughtful people. These folks take the grind out of life.

About the time we are tempted to think we can handle things all alone
boom! We run into some obstacle and need assistance. We discover all over again that we are not nearly as self-sufficient as we thought.

In spite of our high-tech world and efficient procedures, people remain the essential ingredient of life. When we forget that, a strange thing happens: We start treating people like inconveniences instead of assets.”

As we approach our individual ‘spring trainings’, may we remember that the teammates in our lives (both human and divine) can help us find our way when dealing with the struggles and challenges each day can bring… while always remembering to keep God at our side along the way.


Thanks again for being such a special part of my Home Team…
Many blessings your way!

Dave

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Wednesday, January 2, 2019

Reflections from the Home Team - January 2, 2019


“Though I am in hospice care and have to wake up every morning knowing that the day might be my last, I still have a choice to make: to make that day the best it can be. To make the most of whoever comes to visit, texts, tweets or calls me. Yet, isn’t that a choice we all have every day? After all, nobody knows the amount of days we have left. Some could say we are all in hospice to a certain degree. Be aware that any day can be your last and make each day the best it can be.”
-- Tyler Trent




Greetings from Cedar Falls,

I wanted to welcome my “Home Team” to 2019 by sharing some thoughts that have been rolling around in my head for the past several weeks. Scary thought, I know, but here goes…

First, I was saddened to hear of the passing of young Tyler Trent yesterday. Tyler had been an inspiration for me when I first became aware of his situation last year. Tyler was diagnosed with bone cancer in 2014 when he was still in high school. He had part of his right arm replaced with titanium, but last year the cancer came back in his pelvis. The cancer has been extremely aggressive and Tyler has been in hospice care this past fall. Tyler died Tuesday, January 1. He was just 20 years old.

As a student at Purdue University, Tyler was a huge Boilermaker fan and has served as an inspiration to the football team and an entire community.
Tyler wanted to be a sportswriter and was determined to attend Purdue despite suffering three bouts with a rare bone cancer, first diagnosed at age 15. He entered Purdue in the fall of 2017 while undergoing chemotherapy. He camped out with another student to get good seats to a Purdue-Michigan football game, just hours after chemotherapy.
He gained national attention in 2018 by becoming the adopted captain of the Boilermakers football team. He was in a wheelchair for Purdue’s upset win over Ohio State, which was ranked No. 2 in the nation at the time. He became an inspiration to many with his positive attitude and determination to live every day to the fullest despite the illness.
You know, it’s seems like such a cliché to say that you should live every day like it was your last on earth…That’s probably not sustainable. I like what Tyler Trent had to say, though…

“Though I am in hospice care and have to wake up every morning knowing that the day might be my last, I still have a choice to make: to make that day the best it can be. To make the most of whoever comes to visit, texts, tweets or calls me. Yet, isn’t that a choice we all have every day? After all, nobody knows the amount of days we have left. Some could say we are all in hospice to a certain degree. Be aware that any day can be your last and make each day the best it can be.”

We all can honor Tyler by making the most of each and every day. You don’t have to live it like it’s your last day on earth. Just try and make it the best it can be. Savor your interactions with others, enjoy your morning coffee and take some time to notice the beauty around you. Don’t put off getting together with someone you want to see. Let a friend know you care about them. Make today count!

Another thought that I wanted to share was a recent post from my favorite author, Jon Gordon.  Jon always seems to come up with a message that not only inspires, but also is timely for me as I travel my life’s journey. His message ties into what Tyler’s short, but impactful life was about -- facing life each and every day in a positive way despite your personal circumstances.

Jon writes:

No Fear in the New Year

Eighteen years ago I looked out into the Atlantic Ocean on New Year's Day with fear in my heart and uncertainty in my life. I had been fired from a dot com company two weeks earlier with only two weeks of severance, no insurance for my two young children and only two months of savings in the bank. My wife and I had just invested every dollar we had and even took out a second mortgage on our home and $20,000 on a credit card to open what would be the first Moe’s Southwest Grill in Florida.

The restaurant was set to open January 13th and we had no earthly idea how we would pay our home mortgage and other bills since I planned on keeping my salary and job while my managers built the restaurant business. Now, it was New Years Day and I had no job, no salary and a restaurant opening that at worst would fail miserably or at best take a year to be profitable.

I thought of all this as I prepared to jump into the icy cold water-to take a symbolic plunge that this would be the year of NO FEAR. Regardless of the circumstances I was facing, this would be the year where I would trust and go for it. This would be the year I would be bold in actions and faith. No longer could I do it alone. Now I needed a miracle and I decided to act as if my future depended on me and pray like it depended on God.

By jumping into the ocean I was declaring that no longer will I allow fear to cut off the flow of abundant and positive energy in my life. No longer will I allow fear to paralyze me. Instead of fear I would trust.

Now, eighteen years later, I'm jumping into the ocean once again on New Year’s Day (but this time in California). It has become my yearly ritual – to remind myself to follow my passion, live life to the fullest, surrender and to stay one step ahead of the fear that hovers around me.

And as I take my leap into the ocean I want to invite you to jump in with me. Perhaps not in the ocean but in the depths of your mind. This jump doesn't necessarily require water but rather a leap of faith in your belief system and a shift in your mindset. The antidote to fear is trust and it is only a thought away.

No one is going to push you over the chasm of struggle to the life that you want. God will nudge you but you must take the leap. You must make this jump in your mind and then with your actions. You must make this jump with trust, determination and faith.

After all, they don't call it a leap of fear. They call it a "leap of faith" for a reason.

You will always feel fear. Everyone will. But your trust must be bigger than your fear. The bigger your trust the smaller your fear becomes. And the more you trust the more you become a conduit for miracles. I know! A consulting project presented itself out the blue and we were able to pay our mortgage. A check came in the mail, the right opportunities came our way and somehow, some way my family and I were carried. A year after the restaurant opened I started writing which eventually lead to me writing books, speaking and doing the work I do now.

Maybe 2018 wasn't a great year for you but I believe the New Year represents a fresh start and presents a new opportunity to create the life and career you want. All you have to do is jump in with all that you are and all that you wish to become. I wish you an amazing 2019 and I'm sending positive energy your way.

"You will always feel fear. Everyone will. But your trust must be bigger than your fear."

-Jon

That brings me to my final thought…  

I recently spent some time at Barnes and Noble doing a little “book shopping” to help bolster my mind with positive thoughts. I overheard a conversation with a young lady who was asking an employee where she could find a new suspense novel that had just been released. The young man quickly handed the young lady a book from his “personal stash” behind the counter and went back to work. I watched a smile spread across her face as she examined her new treasure while gently turning the book over in her hands and flipping through pages. She then did something I absolutely could not believe. She turned to the last several pages of the book and began reading. I could not help myself.

“Okay. I have to confess that I saw you reading the last few pages of the book. Why in the world did you read the ending? Won’t that spoil the story for you?” I asked. “Not at all,” she quickly responded. “Before I buy a book, I always read the ending to make sure I really want that particular book,” she explained.

It was worse than I thought…seeing the look of disbelief on my face, she laughed and admitted, “I know. It sounds crazy, but I have to know that everything turns out okay before I commit to reading the book.”

The more I thought about her words, the more I realized that as followers of God, we need to do the same. We need to live every minute of every day knowing that no matter what we face, we can truly say, “God’s got it!”

When we focus only on what we can see and understand or explain, we will worry... Been there, done that!!

Fear and doubt will become familiar companions if we live each day against the backdrop of this broken world and our individual circumstances. Our only hope is placing our trust in God. As Isaiah 43:2 says; “When you go through deep waters and great trouble, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown! When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you.”

I am so often tempted to worry about so many things… Our world is a mess! I need to continually remind myself that He is in control and that “He’s got this” no matter what my circumstance!

I’d like to leave you with two final thoughts from Tyler and John as you focus on the year ahead in 2019…

“Be aware that any day can be your last and make each day the best it can be.” Tyler Trent

"You will always feel fear. Everyone will. But your trust must be bigger than your fear."  Jon Gordon


Wishing you a healthy, happy and joy filled year ahead!

In Christ’s love and comfort,

Dave

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