Saturday, February 3, 2018

Reflections from the Home Team 2-3-18


"It wasn't until later that I started to appreciate and understand that success is just as much about mindset and mental toughness as it is about the physical… I then began to realize that no matter what our shape, size or situation, we all have the ability to remain ‘steady’ by living in the present and always ‘being where our feet are’ whenever we are faced with life’s challenges!”
Greetings from Cedar Falls!
It’s that special time of year for me when baseball begins to enter my mind as pitchers and catchers are preparing to report to spring training. That’s always a good distraction from the cold and blustery days of winter here in Iowa as well as what can be some of the doldrums that set in when dealing with side effects of treatments. One thing that has kept me warm and steady over the winter months are the memories that the 2017 playoffs and World Series have provided.  Two of my favorite players last fall included Jose Altuve of the Houston Astros and Aaron Judge of the New York Yankees.
Jose Altuve led the AL in batting (.346), hits (204) and heart while earning his fifth All-Star Game berth in seven seasons. The 5-foot-6 Venezuelan also had 39 doubles, 81 RBIs, a .410 on-base average, stole 32 bases and played a stellar second base. Only Ty Cobb, Pete Rose and Hank Aaron had more hits than Altuve at their age.
At 6-foot-7 and 282 pounds, Aaron Judge is the young giant of the group who took New York by storm with a monster rookie season, leading the league with 52 homers, 128 runs and 127 walks. The outfielder from Linden, Calif., also got on base a league-leading 286 times and hit a home run every 10.4 at-bats, leading the ‘rebuilding’ Yankees to the ALCS.
Once you take away the natural talent and genetics that both players possess, it seems to me that what makes both Jose and Aaron stand out from the rest revolve around the fact that they commit to and master the fundamentals, even when nobody's watching… They execute the little things with excellence every single day. They focus on the process and never skip steps. They each have a positive mindset, and a determined work ethic. Probably most importantly, when those ‘bumps in the road’ happen along the way, they both live in the present moment, not dwelling on the past and not worrying about the future over which they have no control. I witnessed that from both throughout the regular season and playoffs. How’s that for a life plan!!
After spending nearly four decades working in the game of baseball and observing pros like Jose and Aaron, it seems to me that these ‘fundamentals’ can be applied to ourselves as we face the challenges that life may present us. I’d be hard pressed not to say that many of the lessons I’ve learned in my life have come from my involvement in sports as both a player and a coach. Sports are one of the best teachers we have. As a player, I was fortunate to have mentors who placed a real focus on teaching me to work hard, be accountable and kind, be a good teammate, and to positively contribute to the world. As a coach, I tried to do the same for those I had the opportunity to influence as my players.
I see those qualities present in both Jose and Aaron along with the unique physical skill sets each bring to the game. I believe it is those above-mentioned skills however that both athletes and non-athletes can appreciate. Often, we tend to focus on only ‘physical’ qualities when challenges come our way. When crisis comes, many of us determine to buckle down, to believe that grit and fortitude will be enough to weather the storm. It wasn't until later that I started to appreciate and understand that success is just as much about mindset and mental toughness as it is about the physical… I then began to realize that no matter what our shape, size or situation, we all have the ability to remain ‘steady’ by living in the present and always ‘being where our feet are’ whenever we are faced with life’s challenges!
Try as we might to avoid them, crises will come for us in this life. We are not alone because of the “teammates” we all have on each our journeys, both human and divine.   When I was in crisis mode during treatments, the physical presence, help, and listening ear of others was critical for me. Never have I been so aware of the beauty of the body of Christ as I have been when I was dependent upon others to help care for me, to support my family, and to pray and believe for me when I was losing my grip on the ability to do so for myself.
‘Be where your feet are’ was a common saying of my favorite baseball coach.  Of course, in his world of baseball, it meant to dwell in the present.  If I was having a bad day, he stressed to not let that day continue to distract me mentally and thereby cause the next day to be a bad one.  The game of baseball, just as the game of life is made up of many plays.  In a sense, each play is an individual game.  The player is to play each play individually.  Win this play.  Then win the next play.  Play the game one play at a time.  Play in the moment.  Be where your feet are!

This was and is a very powerful message for me when dealing with the issues involved with the treatments and the follow-ups of a cancer journey. Play one play at a time; take one day at a time.  Life is made up of days.  Psalm 90:12 tells us we would do well to live our lives one day at a time.  And strive to win each day.  Don’t let yesterday ruin today.  And by the same token, tomorrow’s concerns can ruin today as well.

Coach Paul “Bear” Bryant, another coach I have tremendous respect for carried the following poem in his wallet and it speaks well to the thoughts shared today…

“This is the beginning of a new day.  GOD has given me this day to use as I will.  I can waste it or use it for good.  What I do today is very important because I am exchanging a day of my life for it.  When tomorrow comes, this day will be gone forever, leaving something in its place I have traded for it.  I want it to be gain, not loss – good, not evil – success, not failure in order that I shall not forget the price I paid for it.”

The idea is to live today.  We can’t change the past.  We need to  make the most of today.  Let us ‘Be where our feet are’ today. Whatever our need - physical, spiritual, financial, emotional, relational – God’s Truth reminds us that He's got ‘this thing’, whatever it is, that concerns you.

Wishing all a wonderful day as we ease into change, walking from one season to the next. God is so creative, He seized the opportunity to create a time for the beauty of transition!

Dave

Are you or someone you know fighting cancer... struggling with the physical, emotional and spiritual issues that accompany a cancer journey? If so, Reflections from the Home Team... Go the Distance was written to offer strength, hope and comfort when confronted with a cancer journey's challenges. Share a message of positivity with those you care about. Learn more about the book at this link:

www.reflectionsfromthehometeam.com/

Saturday, December 2, 2017


Reflections from the Home Team 
December 2, 2017


“As I witnessed that interaction in the University of Iowa Hospitals and Clinics waiting room… peace, joy, confidence, hope, faith and love all erupted at once in my heart! That experience illustrated through an ‘interruption’ what I feel we all seek in times of difficulty and challenge… a loving presence.”

Greetings from Cedar Falls to my HOME TEAM,

December it seems is always a month of medical follow-ups for me… I’ve just returned from an appointment in Iowa City this past week to follow up on some post treatment side effects. I have been battling upper respiratory challenges as well as some throat and swallowing issues. Seems the radiation and chemo treatments are a gift that just “keep on giving”. I need to be mindful of those issues given my compromised immune system issues since treatments.  I have scheduled a procedure in Iowa City later in December to address those concerns and will also do my regular labs at that time to monitor whether the “visiting team” has any inclinations of coming back to compete in extra innings at that time.

These ongoing checks are important, and provide me with what I refer to as “momentary interruptions” in my daily life. Easy as it may be to allow these interruptions to cloud my thankfulness for the gift of life, I need to remind myself to let them go.  I’m not talking about just the physical things... I’m also including the emotional baggage that can come with those interruptions. I can tell when it’s time to let something go, that being when it begins to feel heavy…  Whether that be frustration with a health issue, a work issue or any other any other challenge that may come my way, it feels good to let them go so that I can create space in my life for new things to come in.  As author Bryant McGill writes in his book “Simple Reminders”…

“It's not wrong to be upset. It's not wrong to cry. It's not wrong to want attention. It's not even wrong to scream or throw a fit. What is wrong is to keep it all inside. What is wrong is to blame and punish yourself for simply being human. What is wrong is to never be heard and to be alone in your pain. Share it. Let it out. Abundance becomes the process of letting go as that which is empty can receive.”

I witnessed an example of that in Iowa City this past week as I was sitting in the U of I Hospitals waiting room for some tests. A gentleman, about my age, was sitting with his children and one of his grandchildren. He was really struggling with his emotions as he was discussing and trying to explain how he felt about his recent cancer diagnosis with his family who was there with him. As he began to tear up, his granddaughter, about seven years old I’d guess, crawled up into his lap to comfort him. At first, he seemed annoyed by the “interruption” as he shared his thoughts with family… As she sat in his lap, I couldn’t help but notice several bruises, scratches and the matted Band-Aid on one of her arms… all of which it seems are often a part of a healthy seven year olds life. As the granddaughter settled in and snuggled with her ‘Pops’, that “interruption” became an illustration of the love, care and affection she had for her grandpa. In turn, her grandpa gave her a hug, acknowledged that they were both a bit bruised and broken and that they could ‘snuggle’ together to help comfort and heal each other.

As I witnessed that interaction in the University of Iowa Hospitals and Clinics waiting room… peace, joy, confidence, hope, faith and love all erupted at once in my heart! That experience illustrated through an ‘interruption’ what I feel we all seek in times of difficulty and challenge… a loving presence.

Our lives are full of interruptions…traffic, a sick child, a long line, a needy neighbor, a complaining customer, a co-worker in crisis, illness and death. These all look, sound and feel like interruptions. However, each of us has the ability to look beyond life’s interruptions and instead see illustrations of God’s love as well as the love of others in our lives.

Interruptions can be appointments for compassion as life at times may feel unfair, but in our everyday routines, we need to recognize that interruptions represent people to love and also create opportunities for us to be loved! We each need to allow those interruptions to slow us down a bit, so we can better focus on receiving and giving love both from God as well as the others in our lives.

Just as the young seven year old settled into her grandpa’s lap in Iowa City, we can lean into God’s lap and learn of His love for the person or challenge that may have interrupted our life. By settling into the lap of our Lord, as well as those on our personal “Home Teams” who care about us, we can rest securely in their comfort and compassion.

As we deal with the frustrations in explaining how we feel about the challenges our life journey can present us, John 13:7 provides me with some guidance… “You don’t understand now what I am doing, but someday you will.” As we learn to live in this world, He is with us. As we walk down dark paths, He is with us. As we face grief, disappointments, addictions, illnesses, and the unfairness of life, He is with us… for eternity.

May each of your life’s journeys be filled with such a “loving presence” as you navigate the challenges each day presents in our lives and may your eyes be open to see the illustrations of love in the interruptions in our lives…

Blessings to all and wishing you a wonderful Christmas season! Special thanks to all for being such a “loving presence” on my Home Team!

Dave
Are you or someone you know fighting cancer... struggling with the physical, emotional and spiritual issues that accompany a cancer journey? If so, Reflections from the Home Team... Go the Distance was written to offer strength, hope and comfort when confronted with a cancer journey's challenges. Share a message of positivity with those you care about. Learn more about the book at this link:

www.reflectionsfromthehometeam.com/