Reflections from the Home Team April 2,
2016
“Coaches, keep your players — no matter how good they are — your
own children, and most of all, keep yourself at seventeen inches…DON’T WIDEN
THE PLATE!”
Greetings from Cedar Falls,
I wanted to take a moment to update you
since my last Reflection in January. I’ve had a few bumps in the road the past few
weeks along with a visit to Iowa City. The good news is it appears my hearing
loss following treatments has begun to stabilize which is a relief. I have some interesting technology in place
to deal with that issue. Things have been up and down with my counts, and I am
awaiting some lab results. I continue my daily routines to deal with the side effects
of treatments. As we near the end of another school year I have much to be
grateful for. I again want to offer a special thanks to my doctors and medical
support team for the time and efforts they have given to assist me in dealing
with the setbacks one deals with as a cancer survivor.
That brings me to this reflection. As I was sitting in Iowa City this past week
waiting for my appointment, I had the opportunity to sit and visit with a
couple in the waiting room as they waited with their teenage children at the
Pharmacy. One of the children had been recently diagnosed with cancer and they
were struggling with that as they waited to pick up a prescription for
him. We got into a discussion about the
improvements made in treating cancer, and the improved success rate with
surviving the disease. They wanted to
hear about my experience, so I shared a brief summary, doing my best to share
the positive outcome, and I think they appreciated that. One thing led to
another and the discussion turned to raising a young family these days and all
the challenges that it involves. We agreed that times have changed over the
years, and that often, there seems to be a lack of “constants” in place these
days with young people similar to when they were growing up. That struck home
with me being in the education “business” as I deal with young people and their
parents every day. That brought to mind
a presentation that was shared with me back in my coaching days by Coach John
Scolinos, who coached a long time at Cal Poly, Pomona. He was presenting at the
ABCA Coaches National Convention back in the mid 90’s, and it reminded me of a message
that I often shared with my players when coaching.…thoughts that had an impact
outside of the playing field and that could be carried with us in each of our
life’s journeys, whether it be with family, friends, teams, careers or dealing
with cancer. Here is that message.
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by John O’Sullivan:
by John O’Sullivan:
In 1996, Coach Scolinos was 78 years old and five years retired
from a college coaching career that began in 1948. He shuffled to the
stage at the ABCA Convention in Nashville to an impressive
standing ovation, wearing dark polyester pants, a light blue shirt, and a
string around his neck from which home plate hung — a full-sized, stark-white
home plate.
After speaking for twenty-five minutes, not once mentioning the prop hanging around his neck, Coach Scolinos appeared to notice the snickering among some of the coaches. Even those who knew Coach Scolinos had to wonder exactly where he was going with this, or if he had simply forgotten about home plate since he’d gotten on stage. Then, finally …
After speaking for twenty-five minutes, not once mentioning the prop hanging around his neck, Coach Scolinos appeared to notice the snickering among some of the coaches. Even those who knew Coach Scolinos had to wonder exactly where he was going with this, or if he had simply forgotten about home plate since he’d gotten on stage. Then, finally …
“You’re probably all wondering why I’m wearing home plate around my neck. Or maybe you think I escaped from Camarillo State Hospital,” he said, his voice growing irascible. I laughed along with the others, acknowledging the possibility. “No,” he continued, “I may be old, but I’m not crazy. The reason I stand before you today is to share with you baseball people what I’ve learned in my life, what I’ve learned about home plate in my 78 years. “Several hands went up when Scolinos asked how many Little League coaches were in the room. “Do you know how wide home plate is in Little League?” After a pause, someone offered, “Seventeen inches,” more question than answer. “That’s right,” he said. “How about in Babe Ruth? Any Babe Ruth coaches in the house?”
Another long pause. “Seventeen inches?” came a guess from another reluctant coach. “That’s right,” said Scolinos. “Now, how many high school coaches do we have in the room?” Hundreds of hands shot up, as the pattern began to appear. “How wide is home plate in high school baseball?” “Seventeen inches,” they said, sounding more confident. “You’re right!” Scolinos barked. “And you college coaches, how wide is home plate in college?” “Seventeen inches!” we said, in unison. “Any Minor League coaches here? How wide is home plate in pro ball?” “Seventeen inches!” “RIGHT! And in the Major Leagues, how wide home plate is in the Major Leagues?” “Seventeen inches!”
“SEV-EN-TEEN INCHES!” he confirmed, his voice bellowing off the
walls. “And what do they do with a Big League pitcher who can’t throw the ball
over seventeen inches?” Pause. “They send him to Pocatello!” he hollered,
drawing raucous laughter.
“What they don’t do is this: they don’t say, ‘Ah, that’s okay,
Jimmy. You can’t hit a seventeen-inch target? We’ll make it eighteen inches, or
nineteen inches. We’ll make it twenty inches so you have a better chance of hitting
it. If you can’t hit that, let us know so we can make it wider still, say
twenty-five inches.'”
Pause.
“Coaches …”
Pause.
” … what do we do when
our best player shows up late to practice? When our team rules forbid facial
hair and a guy shows up unshaven? What if he gets caught drinking? Do we hold
him accountable? Or do we change the rules to fit him, do we widen home plate?
The chuckles gradually faded as four thousand coaches grew
quiet, the fog lifting as the old coach’s message began to unfold. He turned
the plate toward himself and, using a Sharpie, began to draw something. When he
turned it toward the crowd, point up, a house was revealed, complete with a
freshly drawn door and two windows. “This is the problem in our homes today.
With our marriages, with the way we parent our kids. With our discipline. We
don’t teach accountability to our kids, and there is no consequence for failing
to meet standards. We widen the plate!”
Pause.
Then, to the point at the top of the house he added a small
American flag. “This is the problem in
our schools today. The quality of our education is going downhill fast and
teachers have been stripped of the tools they need to be successful, and to educate
and discipline our young people. We are allowing others to widen home plate!
Where is that getting us?”
Silence…
“He replaced the flag with a Cross. “And this is the problem in
the Church, where powerful people in positions of authority have taken
advantage of young children, only to have such an atrocity swept under the rug
for years. Our church leaders are widening home plate!”
I was amazed. At a baseball convention where I expected to learn
something about curveballs and bunting and how to run better practices, I had
learned something far more valuable. From an old man with home plate strung
around his neck, I had learned something about life, about myself, about my own
weaknesses and about my responsibilities as a leader. I had to hold myself and
others accountable to that which I knew to be right, lest our families, our
faith, and our society continue down an undesirable path.
“If I am lucky,” Coach Scolinos concluded, “you will remember
one thing from this old coach today. It is this: if we fail to hold ourselves
to a higher standard, a standard of what we know to be right; if we fail to
hold our spouses and our children to the same standards, if we are unwilling or
unable to provide a consequence when they do not meet the standard; and if our
schools and churches and our government fail to hold themselves accountable to
those they serve, there is but one thing to look forward to …”
With that, he held home plate in front of his chest, turned it
around, and revealed its dark black backside. “… dark days ahead.”
Coach Scolinos died in 2009 at the age of 91, but not before
touching the lives of hundreds of players and coaches, including mine. Meeting
him at my first ABCA convention kept me returning year after year, looking for similar
wisdom and inspiration from other coaches. He is the best clinic speaker the
ABCA has ever known, because he was so much more than a baseball coach.
Coach’s message was relevant in 1996, and
it still is today. His message was clear:
“Coaches, keep your players — no matter how good they are — your own children, and most of all, keep yourself at seventeen inches, DON”T WIDEN THE PLATE."
“Coaches, keep your players — no matter how good they are — your own children, and most of all, keep yourself at seventeen inches, DON”T WIDEN THE PLATE."
I can clearly recall sitting in my chemo
and radiation treatments in Iowa City, having a frank discussion with my
oncologist, Dr. Claman as I struggled with the nausea from chemo and the pain
in my throat from radiation. I asked Dr.
Claman if I could cut the treatments short as they appeared to be working
shrinking the tumors in my neck, and his reply was simply this… “Dave, I feel
terrible I have to put you through this, but in the end, it will all work out
for you.” He was compassionate, but he didn’t “WIDEN THE PLATE.” Yes, it did
work out successfully for me thanks to Dr. Claman holding me to what he knew was
right by having me follow the precise treatment regimen he had prescribed, no
short cuts. Let’s hold ourselves and our families to a similar standard of what
we know to be right each and every day, by not taking short cuts and “WIDENING
THE PLATE” along the way as we face the trials and challenges put before us
each and every day.
James 1:2-3
Blessings to each of you for a healthy and
productive 2016!
Yours in life’s battles…
Dave
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from the Home Team BLOG
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Emmanuel and "Angelina"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AhR04kmcSXU
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